You can over come ANYTHING.

You can over come Anything. February 23, 2015

To me beauty isn't define by your weight, height, size, color of her skin or anything. You are beautiful from the inside out. I had low self esteem growing up. Hearing my hair was ugly, I had a big nose, I wasn't pretty, that some guy wouldn't like me because I wasn't pretty. As a child going through puberty, it was hard. I was embarassed to go into public thinking I wasn't pretty enough. That wasn't the case. I use to hide myself in pounds of makeup, try different hair styles and out fits. I learned at the end of the day their opinion didn't matter. People are always going to talk and try talking you down, but everyone in pretty in their own way. I rather be pretty in the inside then out. Because looks don't last forever, and what does last is what's on the inside. If you had a choice between two friends. You would pick the one who is kind hearted, not the one whose pretty with a bad personality. I delt with a line of bullying growing up, where I constantly defended myself or ignored and other days I just broke down and cried. It's hard growing up because people are mean. But you can over come anything. The major thing that helped me over come was fashion. You need to follow your dreams, if you do anything can happen. If you really want something, try and go for it it will happen. My favorite quote happens to be "Sometimes life is about risking everything for a dream no one can see, but YOU." It's about going after your dream, your goal, and no one can tell you you can't, because if you want it you got it. I have over come my low self esteem through fashion. I always wanted to be a fashion designer. I use to cut up old costumes and make clothes by hand sewing for my barbies, bratz, and american girl dolls. Also as I got older, I even made clothes for my webkinz! I use to watch That's so Raven, and thought wow that is so cool, as a little kid. Through my years I began watching beauty pageants on tv, such as Ms America, also Project Runway and other design shows. I kept up with fashion weeks such as the Mercedes Benz that has just ended. I followed my dreams. I realized wow I would love to create a dress like that, and realizing I could, and that I could wear it. Helped me. Confidence is Key. Such as following your dreams. I became confortable in my own skin as time went on. I started to wear less makeup, to the point I go to school and work everyday without any! I only wear it for special occasions now, just to clean up and look nice. I represent myself with my clothes. I don't usually dress up to school, i'm in sweats and leggings, i realized you don't need to make anyone else happy, but yourself. I'm happy with the way I am, the way I look. So should everyone else. Only YOUR own opinion counts, no one elses. If you listened to what everyone said in life, do you think you could achieve anything. NO. 

I found this article on tumblr about over coming low self esteem, I'd like to share with everyone, for everyone to find a way to over come it. Like if you think you love that shirt, go for it wear it, who cares about what people say. Put on a swim suit if you want! If you don't like your weight, work it girl, because your a gift from god. There is tons of ways to over come this. To over come anyhing if you tried.

Heres the article. How To Overcome Low Self Esteem

More and more people are becoming aware of the fact that they may be experiencing low self esteem and holding a low opinion of there-selves as well as under valuing there-selves.

Understanding self esteem and how it works isn’t overly complicated to get a basic grounding, you see it’s quite simply the way in which we perceive ourselves and value ourselves as a person, which is oftentimes used as in comparison to those around us.

So basically it’s our own mental barrier that determines our level of self esteem, you see we may judge ourselves personally and judge ourselves on how we think others perceive and value us but this our own judgement nobody elses!

I wish I could say that dealing with low self esteem was easy and that raising your levels of self esteem meant just sticking to a few common practices or taking some form of prescription but unfortunately low self esteem is more psychological and requires some re-programing of the mind and inner belief system.

Your level of self esteem will differ greatly to others dependent on your past and present experiences and circumstances, for some it may be easier to overcome than others but we can all increase our self esteem gradually and should try to as well.

Overcoming Low Self Esteem

Regardless of whether you have a good grounding on how the human mind works and how we develop as a person and take on our own belief systems and expectations, you can still follow a few simple practices that will help you to increase your self esteem.

Before covering some common practices for overcoming low self esteem I want you first to try and identify what it is that’s contributing to your low levels of self esteem.

This is more of a personal commitment than any recommendation I can give but there are generally two key areas to focus on which are experiences from your past and current circumstances in your life.

People actually under-estimate just how much buried subconscious memories can affect their well-being today. Emotional scarring is often a root cause for many mental health issues and self esteem is no different.

Also look at what’s going on in your life right now that you feel unhappy with or that may be dragging you down such as abusive relationship, criticism from friends or family or even just not feeling happy at your job.

4 Practical Tips For Overcoming Low Self Esteem

Positive Thinking: try and maintain a positive attitude attitude even when things aren’t going so well, as long as you can stay focused mentally you’re in good stead and feeding your mind the positive signals needed to maintain healthy levels of self
esteem.

Avoid Criticism: Avoid people who you feel are nagging you or worse knocking you for who you are or hat you do.. After all who are they judge and what great achievements do they have to allow them to judge.

When faced with such criticism that you cannot escape (maybe a boss at work), maintain a positive attitude in your mind and keep composure, reminding yourself of your strengths and filtering out their negativity.

Even go as far as to thank then for their advice in a rather smug way and know in your own mind that you conquered that negativity and criticism.

Perfection: There’s no such thing as perfection and trying to be perfect in all that you do will only cause you to lower your feelings of self worth when you don’t get the results you anticipated. Aim low and anything else is a bonus.

Value your opinion: Your opinion is just as valuable as the next persons, people with low self esteem tend to avoid putting their notions out there for fear of rejection or looking silly but again this is nothing more than your own belief esteem dictating this.

Remember your self esteem may stem from years of being put down by someone or made to feel worthless in the workplace with an arrogant boss but you can and WILL build up self esteem again if you pinpoint these problems and actively work to weed out these doubts and feelings of low self worth.

If you found this article helpful and would like to learn more proven and practical strategies for developing as a person to achieve more and be happier then visit my blog at http://selfenlightenedmind.com where you can browse a number of categories related to self improvement.

I thought including this article could help everyone. Because theres no reason to feel low of yourself. No reason to feel less than anyone else. You're perfect just the way you are. If you kept all the negativity in your life you'll never be happy. I realized i've never been happier than ever being the way I am. 

TO ANYONE READING THIS. YOU'RE RAD AS HELL, BEAUTIFUL!!! DON'T LET ANYONE TELL YOU DIFFERENT! I HOPE YOU KNOW THAT. 

Do something that makes you happy. Like go to the gym, buy a new outfit, put on some makeup, do your hair, anything that can boost your self confidence, like mine has been. You are a gift to this world, and you deserve to be happy and confortable in your own skin. If you want that extra scoop of icecream go for it, don't starve yourself, be happy the way you are. 

Fashion like Sherri Hill, who is my inspiration for dresses, knowing that one day I will have created dresses like her for everyone to know. That one day I will have normal people wearing them, like i'm 5ft tall and I don't care. I hate that people judge you based on your height and size, when at the end of the day none of that matters. Because you're beautiful for being you! 

I want everyone to try this 20 day challenge to help build their self esteem. Their confidence. Each day post a picture or write a post about different body positive things. I think it’s a great way to get out of the habit of comparing yourself to people, because you should be happy for being you and accept yourself. The best way to see your inner beauty is to be confident about it.

Day 1: post your favorite picture of yourself

Day 2: write a post about something on your face that you love

Day 3: take a picture of something you’ve struggled with but are either trying or have overcome 

Day 4: make a post about something on your body that you love 

Day 5: take a picture of yourself without makeup or your hair done and write underneath something that you love about yourself that isn’t physical
Day 6: post a quote or picture that makes you feel confident

Day 7: write one thing about your surroundings that make you feel confident 

Day 8: write one thing you’re grateful for that your body allows you to do. 

Day 9: write a body positive letter to yourself (sorta like a pep talk) and post it 

Day 10: post one positive word that describes your bod

Day 11: post a picture of you in your favorite outfit 

Day 12: when do you feel the most confident? 

Day 13: what people around you or in the media influence you in body positivity and how 

Day 14: draw or write something body positive on yourself and post a picture of it. 

Day 15: write yourself a body positive promise for the future

Day 16: post a picture of you and your friends where you think everyone looks the most confident and beautiful 

Day 17: write a post about something you’ve struggled with (confidence and body wise) that you haven’t already mentioned

Day 18: treat yourself to food that you LOVE whether it’s healthy or unhealthy and post a picture of it 

Day 19: make a post about one person that you look up to that has influence you in body positivity the MOST. 

Day 20: what have you learned about confidence in this challenge?

I hope everyone trys the challenge. Which I will be posting on here for the next 20 days. My challenges each day and i hope you all try it. 

Love you all, you're beautiful don't forget.

Jackie Kensey xox